Destiny Dates: Major Turn offs for Women

BEFORE WE GET INTO THE JUICE! WE GOTTA GET INTO THE ALCOHOL, BABY!

If you are over the age of 21 and you are ready to get F'ed TF Up. I want you to take a shot every time I write #real. I realized I def need a drink to get through these #embarrassing stories I write. So, you def need one too.

***DISCLAIMER***

IF YOU ARE EASILY OFFENDED DO NOT READ THIS LIST.

I guess you guys wanted a sneak peak into the mind of a woman... WELL, you are in luck because I am EXACTLY that. I can't speak for ALL women. But, I can tell you MAJOR turnoffs for ME. I promise to keep it #real for you (like I always do). "ALEXA!!! PLAY PRETTY BOY SWAG FOR MY MEN LOVING WOMEN".... "ALEXA, PLAY FLETCHER FOR MY WOMEN LOVING WOMEN *tongue emoji*"

DESTINY'S EPIC LIST OF MAJOR TURN OFFS!!!

1. DO NOT SPAM TEXT ME WITH 25 messages IF WE ARE NOT IN ACTIVE CONVERSATION!

I WILL NOW GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT IS NOT APPROPRIATE

"Hey"

"Hey Beautiful "

"Hey Princess"

*Swipes up on story with heart eyes*

"How are you?"

"Hey, I would love to take you out sometime"

*Swipes up on story with heart emoji"

"How is your day going baby?"

If you do this, you need to stop.... you ARE EMBARRASSING YOURSELF! #real. Honestly, it is kind of creepy and it shows me that you don't respect my time or my boundaries. ALSO, it's just weird as FUCK! If a woman is interested in you, you won't need to spam message her a million times to get her attention... SHE'LL RESPOND ON THE FIRST/ SECOND MESSAGE. If she doesn't, take the hint. she's just not interested in you.

desperation just isn't cute.

*me when I get spam texted*

I WILL NOW GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT IS APPROPRIATE

EXAMPLE 1: "hey, I was just thinking about you and wanted to know how your day is going :)"

EXAMPLE 2: "hey beautiful:)" "how is your day going?"

*************DO NOT SEND ANY MORE THAN 1-2 AT A TIME!*****************

2. BITCH, I KNOW YOU ARE ON YOUR PHONE! Bruh, I average like 9 hours of screen time A DAY. (that's def a problem LMFAOOOOO) but tbh, if you're taking FOREVER to respond because you want to "be mysterious" that doesn't work. you just look stupid #real....STOP WITH THE GAMES BRUH! IF YOU WANT ME, MAKE IT KNOWN!

WE LITERALLY LIVE ON A FLOATING ROCK IN THE MIDDLE OF NOTHING.... SEND THAT DOUBLE TEXT!!! LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO PLAY THESE CRAZY NONSENSE GAMES!

*me when a man tells me he's interested in me and then disappears for a few days?*

3. Having more swagger than substance.

Don't get me wrong. I love a man that's $waggy. But, if that's your only personality trait, you gonna need to reevaluate. FIRST, we are gonna make a list of people who have MAJOR #$WAG.

1. Bad Bunny (Latino $wag)

2. Drake (Daddy $wag/ Light Skin $wag. He covers two areas)

3. Donald Trump (Controversial $wag)

4. Jack Harlow (Awkward $wag, but still $wag)

5. ASAP ROCKY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! King of Swag *Bow down* (So much $wag he bagged RiRi).

I LOVE me a man with swag, just as much as the next woman. But, if you have all SWAGGER and NO substance. I do not want you. You gotta have the perfect combo of swag and substance. I need you to be kind, not cocky. I want you to have confidence, I don't want you to treat me like shit.

EXAMPLE TIME: Justin Bieber is ALL SWAG, No SUBSTANCE. He low-key treats Hailey Bieber like shit. He is swaggy. He's hot. Girls want him, he knows it. So, he thinks he can get away with treating women like shit. #BOO. (But, he's totally still bang-able... just not relationship material).

So, I guess if you looking for some punani and that's it, act like Justin.

4. BEING A "SAD BOY" or "SAD GIRL" or "SAD WHATEVER YOU ARE" (I'm not trynna get canceled LMFAO) AKA: HAVING A BAD OUTLOOK

Bruh, mental illness is NOT cute. I think that social media has def glorified it. There are real people out here that actually struggle with mental illness. So, if you a "sad boy" faking it for some type of "SWAG" that's not normal... LMFAO

I think it's so great that artists like XXXTENTACION and JUICE WORLD have expressed their emotions through music. I think those are REAL emotions that people experience. But, there are people are trying to be like them and pull off this "SAD BOY/GIRL" aesthetic..

I AM GONNA BE REAL WITH YOU. I DON'T THINK ANYONE WANTS TO VOLUNTEER TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO IS MENTALLY UNSTABLE.... DUH......

I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY THIS IS A CONVERSATION THAT NEEDS TO BE HAD. If you are portraying this #sadboy mentality and are like "damn idk why I ain't in a relationship" and then tell everyone "I'm depressed" "I'm sad" like... that's probably why??

You know what is cute, being mentally stable, having a job, and having a car. LMFAOOO.

****DISCLAIMER****

THIS IS DIRECTED TOWARDS PPL THAT FAKE BEING MENTALLY ILL. THIS IS NOT DIRECTED TOWARDS PPL THAT ACTUALLY HAVE MENTAL ILLNESS. WISHING YOU LOVE AND HEALING ON YOUR JOURNEY. YOU DESERVE LOVE.

KEEPIN' IT #REAL

If you are constantly listening to juice and x.... no wonder you're are depressed.

THE MUSIC YOU LISTEN TO PENETRATES YOUR MIND. If you are CONSTANTLY LISTENING TO DEPRESSING MUSIC. You are going to have depressing thoughts CONSTANTLY in your mind. It's not rocket science. #real

BACK TO MY JUICY LIST

5. LOW SELF-ESTEEM

I think that masculine energy should lead the relationship. As a feminine woman, I want someone I can be gentle with and submit to. If you have poor self-esteem, the chances we are going to work out are 0.

I cherish a man with confidence. I want someone that is confident within themself. If you're not, don't even walk in my direcrtion.

*me saying goodbye to weirdos that don't have any $wag*

6. IF I INVITE YOU OVER TO MY HOME AND YOU DON'T WEAR SOCKS AND PUT YOUR FEET OMN MY BED.

This one is STRANGELY specific. But, we all have our own things I guess. If I eventually decide to bring you over my home and you think it is a good idea to put your bare TOES on my bed.. I genuinely believe that there is something wrong with you. That is NOT NORMAL.

I am not saying I am like anti-feet, like I literally don't care, we all have them. My issue is when people get too comfortable, too fast. I would NEVER be comfortable showing my toes to a man like only after date 3.

STORY TIME:

LMAOOOOO, one time I invited this boy to hangout and he was wearing sneakers, totally normal. We decided we were gonna watch Hunger Games. He takes off his shoes and he has on NO SOCKS?!?!?!? WTF so not normal.

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ASK DESTINY:

Okay, so this week I asked my instagram followers if they had any questions that they wanted me to cover this week! LMFAO, I got one question #real. But, I am super excited because I love answering questions!

Question of the week:

What is the best first message for a woman to send to a man on a dating app?

I pulled up my tinder LMFAO and I hunted in my messages to see what messages I got the boys to respond to.

Below, I will attach my dating app conversations LMFAO hope these help.

*That was the end of this conversation*

I LAUGHED AT THIS ONE BECAUSE THIS IS SO NOT NORMAL

*I don't want a far away Italian bf so the convo ended here LMFAO*

*HIGH SUCCESS RATE* IDK why. But, he had major SWAG. I had to tell him.

*I messaged him about something that was on his profile but after he told me he was in the army I dipped because I am scared of military men LMFAO*

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POLL FOR NEXT WEEKS BLOG!

(We did a poll on instagram and snapchat, but I would love to hear from my readers what you guys wanna read about for next week!)

WHAT DO YOU WANT!?!?!

• Do's and Dont's of Dating Apps <3
• How to get over a breakup <3
• How to have a good first date <3

OKAY, my beautiful people! That is all I have for you this week! I hope this weeks read brought you some laughter and light!

XOXO, DESTINY <3